Why?

In recent posts, I’ve written about the various techniques of relationship astrology - what they are, how we use them, and what information they can offer. Today, I’d like to take a look at why we do relationship astrology.

It might seem obvious… we do relationship astrology so we’ll know about our relationships.

But what are the expectations behind “knowing about our relationships”? Do we want to know why a relationship is going well? Do we want to know why it’s in a rough patch? If people will get to ‘the next step’ (whatever that is)? If they will split up?

In truth, in itself relationship astrology doesn’t give definitive answers to any of those questions. When we add in a little history or the partnership and get a sense of where the partners are in relation to the partnership, it’s possible to know more about where things are headed. But you could also do that without the astrology - so what are we really seeing?

As with natal (individual) astrology, the techniques of relationship astrology allow us to see underlying energetic patterns and the internal dynamics of the relationship. How those potentials are manifested in practical terms relies of the awareness and consciousness that each partner brings - and that’s something we can’t know in advance.

Again, as with natal astrology, there is nothing in relationship astrology that is inherently good or bad, or that precludes or ensures a good relationship. Some energies are surely harder to work with and require a great deal of consciousness - but the greatest challenges can produce the greatest rewards. Some relationships are characterized by easy, flowing energies - and while these can be happy, they may (may) lack depth and potential for growth.

So, the Why? of relationship astrology is to help us to understand the potentials and challenges in a relationship. There are a lot of moving parts, and we see them swirling around like a kaleidoscope. Yet we can’t fill in the colors until we’ve talked with the people who actually make the relationship real.

It’s a process of becoming aware of dynamics that might otherwise be unconscious, and that might cause us to react rather than respond. As we know more about our relationships, we can make better choices.

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