Yours, Mine and Ours

In previous blog posts, I’ve been writing about the cast of characters within each of us, and their competing needs, wants, and modes of operation. It’s a complex situation, as heart and head, gut and genitals all voice their opinions - on some days, our internal cacophony sounds like Parliament before an important vote.

And that’s all going on within each of us. When we start to consider how the Sun, Moon, Venus, and Mars of one person interact with those of another, things get much more complex (and yes, the other planets do matter, even if I haven’t written about them yet).

Let’s take a look at the Venus of two people. One has the Goddess of Love in outgoing, fiery Leo - looking for drama and fun, ready to be swept away by a grand romantic gesture, while also making sure that everything is coming from the heart. The other person may have Venus in Capricorn, where a more reserved, even traditional approach to relationship dominates. The Venus in Leo person wants things to move quickly and wants to feel excitement, while the Venus in Capricorn person could want to take things more slowly, building the relationship step by step.

We can also compare different planets. One person has Mars in Sagittarius, and is always ready to voice an opinion and stir up a little controversy (not that all Mars-in-Sags would act that way, but it’s a possibility). The hot assertiveness of Mars could be enticing to a Moon in Aries that loves competition and getting things started, but a real challenge to a sensitive, empathic Moon in Pisces.

The complex interaction of two charts is called synastry in astrology (syn, meaning together, and astry, stars. While some combinations can be challenging, it’s rarely the case that two charts - two people, that is - can’t work things out if enough awareness is brought to the situation.

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