The Importance of Fun in Relationships

With the build up to the Aries Full Moon on Thursday, there is quite a degree of stress and distress in the world. Undoubtedly this can put a strain on all our relationships. However, although the sign of Aries is best known for its warrior skills, what’s often forgotten is that it is one of the most playful signs of the zodiac. Being the very first sign, Aries has a childlike quality to it that thrives on laughter and fun with friends, family and significant other.

Although it can seem almost like sacrilege to talk about fun when there are so many crisis happening all around us, it’s the very time when fun needs to take priority both for our own sanity and for the wellbeing of our relationships.  

Often we don’t have enough fun because we are not really sure what that means to us and what it might look like in our relationships. Although this changes with age and the circumstances we find ourselves in, there are usually some key features that represent ‘fun’ to each of us which remain important throughout our life

Natal Jupiter by house, sign and aspect gives us a lot of information re what brings us joy and Venus by house, sign and aspect, highlights what we value. These are key contributors to what we each define as 'fun'. Planets in our natal 5th house, as well as the placement of the ruler of this house, shows us how we play. In comparing these basic configurations with those of our loved ones, we can immediately see similarities and differences in what we each regard as ‘fun’. For e.g. Jupiter in Sagittarius is likely to find travel and learning ‘fun’ whilst Jupiter in Taurus may find it fun to cook a delicious meal at home.

The next step is to look at the placements of Jupiter and Venus in our composite chart, as well as the ruler of the 5th house and planets within it. This describes the ‘fun’ needs of the relationship itself. (This can be used for all our relationships of course, including parent/child, siblings, friendships and significant other).

It’s very helpful to notice if what the relationship needs fun wise, is very different to the individual needs of each person. Finding creative fun ways to bridge the gap is key to everyone having fun.

If all else fails, remember that laughter is both an expression of fun, as well as a tool to experience the feel good factor that comes with fun. Our whole body chemistry changes for the better when we laugh and so do our relationships, as laughter creates an easy bridge back into connection and intimacy and away from defensiveness and fear. MG